Carolyn Heilbrun Quotes
To recommend that women become identical to men, would be simple reversal, and would defeat the whole point of androgyny, and for that matter, feminism: in both, the whole point is choice.
I don't know why togetherness was ever held up as an ideal of marriage. Away from home for both, then together, that's much better.
Nostalgia is a dangerous emotion, both because it is powerless to act in the real world, and because it glides so easily into hatred and resentment against those who have taken our Eden from us.
The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are known only to the two players, who seek no public trophies.
The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible.
The compulsion to find a lover and husband in a single person has doomed more women to misery than any other illusion.
One hires lawyers as on hires plumbers, because one wants to keep one's hands off the beastly drains.
People who are genuinely involved in life, not just living a routine they've contrived to protect them from disaster, always seem to have more demanded of them than they can easily take on.
One cannot make up stories; one can only retell in new ways the stories one has already heard.
Thinking about profound social change, conservatives always expect disaster, while revolutionaries confidently anticipate utopia. Both are wrong.
We cannot guess the outcome of our actions... Which is why our actions must always be acceptable in themselves, and not as strategies.
In former days, everyone found the assumption of innocence so easy; today we find fatally easy the assumption of guilt.
Power is the ability to take one's place in whatever discourse is essential to action and the right to have one's part matter.
Today's youth seem finally to have understood that only by freeing woman from her exclusively sexual role can man free himself from his ordained role in the rat-race: that of the rat.
Only a marriage with partners strong enough to risk divorce is strong enough to avoid it.
New York is not like London, a now-and-then place to many people. You can either not live in New York or not live anyplace else. One is either a lover or hater.
as the years go on a sense of deep patience comes over one; one seems to know the virtue of ripeness, and the danger of rushing events.
What marks a writer is this: until she - or he, of course - writes down whatever happened, turns it into a story, it hasn't really happened, it hasn't shape, form, reality.
A dog is the only exercise machine you cannot decide to skip when you don't feel like it.
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a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support both together and each individually.
. . . a relationship has a momentum, it must change and develop, and will tend to move toward the point of greatest commitment.
Male friends do not always face each other; they stand side by side, facing the world.
Quoting, like smoking, ... is a dirty habit to which I am devoted. But then ... I am a professor of English literature; it is an occupational hazard.
Is there any vanity greater than the vanity of those who believe themselves without it?
Everyone likes to talk shop, which is the most interesting talk in the world, in the beginning.
