Dan Savage Quotes

Today's unspeakable perversion is tomorrow's kink, is next week's good clean fun

every relationship you are in will fail, until one doesn't

I have a thick skin, but I have a heart.

We all have our scars. That's what falling is love is all about: revealing your scars to somebody who then loves you anyway.

Ultimately life is disease, death and oblivion. It's still better than high school.

One man's blasphemy doesn't override other people's free-speech rights, their freedom to publish, freedom of thought.

I think abortion should be mandatory for about 30 years.

I don't write about my life in my column.

A lot of kids are bullied because of their sexual identity or expression. It's often the effeminate boys and the masculine girls, the ones who violate gender norms and expectations, who get bullied.

the truth is often a mixed message

I don't think that sin and pursuing happiness are not necessarily the same thing.

Every question is a hypothetical question for everyone but the person who asks it.

Bisexuals need to recognize that their being closeted is a huge contributing factor to the hostility they face.

the Bible is only as good and decent as the person reading it.

We're living through an age of irrationality and religious "fervor" I would call it religious idiocy. It's exhausting to year after year be on the receiving end of this demagoguery.

Only someone obsessed with sexual fidelity to an unhealthy degree places a higher value on preserving the ideal of monogamous marriage over preserving an actual marriage.

If kids got raped at Denny's as often as they get raped at church it would be illegal to take your kids to Denny's.

I think astrology is annoying bullshit-which is so Libra of me

I got picked on a lot, even by teachers too. I liked to listen to musicals and bake, and my homeroom teacher found out and mocked me in front of the whole class for baking.

The cultural expectation should be if there's infidelity, the marriage is more important than fidelity.

School is very conformist, and one of the very first conforming that goes on in preschool and kindergarten is gender.

I get letters every year from women who think Valentine's Day is an empty exercise, but are ironically pretty exercised when their boyfriends neglect or forget it.

I wouldn't say that holidays are manufactured by corporations, but they're certainly exploited and mined by them.

One man's piss-soaked sadomasochistic orgy is another man's poetic ecstasy.

I'm always telling people who say two men can't make a baby: 'Anything is possible for God. I'm going to keep inseminating my husband and keep my fingers crossed.'

The right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness means that each of us is free to go our own way, even if the ways some of us may choose to go seem sinful or shocking to our fellow citizens.

I'm an agnosto-theist. I cross myself on airplanes. I pray when I'm sick. When you're sick I'll keep you in my thoughts; when I'm sick, I'm entreating a higher power.

In an open adoption agreement, you agree to a minimum number of visits - a floor, not a ceiling. It's enforceable.

The mistake that straight people made was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous.

Oftentimes, when people write me 4,000-word letters, I write them back and tell them if their problem's that complicated, they probably need a lawyer or a cop, and not me.

Owning a gun in America is one way for conservative white males to demonstrate their anger at crime, liberalism, feminism, and modernity.

Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives.

Every American may have equal access to ice cream, but there's no guarantee that the outcome of eating ice cream will be equal.

Outing is brutal and it should be reserved for brutes

The Bible is a radically pro-slavery document. Slave owners waved Bibles over their heads during the Civil War and justified it.

Relationships are monuments build on lies

How can you tell somebody who is pursuing happiness that they're somehow not American when that was the very first promise that America made?

The truly revolutionary promise of our nation's founding document is the freedom to pursue happiness-with-a-capital-H.

Preaching to the choir actually arms the choir with arguments and elevates the choir's discourse. There's a reason the right does it and does it well and triumphs.

Books are magic: you never know where they're going to end up.

I didn't want kids to think that to be happy, they had to be famous or rich or live in the big city.

Women can go on marrying and pretending that their boyfriends and husbands are Mr. Darcy or some RomCom dream man. But where's that going to get 'em? Besides divorce court?

I believe it's in the best interests of a child to be in a stable environment.

I really enjoy doing theater, but doing theater in Seattle is like dropping a brick in a bottomless well. It's gratifying, but it's almost like doing radio. It's ephemeral.

When you're a writer, you want to try to avoid cliches. Unfortunately, when you're writing about marriage or family, all cliches seem to apply.

You know, my problem is I cant say no to people, especially people who want to write me checks to do things.

I think the 'South Park' guys are brilliant.

I waver between a cop-out agnostic and principled atheism

Natural isn't something I get called a lot in Texas.

I own a lot of my house, because I'm Irish and from people who never owned anything.