Daniel Goleman Quotes
True compassion means not only feeling another's pain but also being moved to help relieve it.
Research shows that for jobs of all kinds, emotional intelligence is twice as important an ingredient of outstanding performance as cognitive ability and technical skill combined.
One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.
Simple inattention kills empathy, let alone compassion. So the first step in compassion is to notice the other's need. It all begins with the simple act of attention.
There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy... They're controlled by different parts of the brain.
Empathy represents the foundation skill for all the social competencies important for work.
One aspect of a successful relationship is not just how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.
My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs - in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.
When the eyes of a woman that a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine - but not when she looks elsewhere.
The best leaders don’t know just one style of leadership—they’re skilled at several, and have the flexibility to switch between styles as the circumstances dictate.
Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.
I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.
Like secondhand smoke, the leakage of emotions can make a bystander an innocent casualty of someone else's toxic state.
Doggedness depends on emotional traits - enthusiasm and persistence in the face of setbacks - above all else.
In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels
Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort
The basic premise that children must learn about emotions is that all feelings are okay to have; however, only some reactions are okay.
The book is a dialogue between The Dalai Lama and a group of scientists about how we can better handle our destructive emotions and how to overcome them.
Empathic, emotionally intelligent work environments have a good track record of increasing creativity, improving problem solving and raising productivity.
Whenever we feel stressed out, that's a signal that our brain is pumping out stress hormones. If sustained over months and years, those hormones can ruin our health and make us a nervous wreck.
Green is a process, not a status. We need to think of 'green' as a verb, not an adjective.
We need to re-create boundaries. When you carry a digital gadget that creates a virtual link to the office, you need to create a virtual boundary that didn't exist before.
We learn best with focused attention. As we focus on what we're learning, the brain maps that information on what we already know making new neural connections
Our passions, when well exercised, have wisdom; they guide our thinking, our values, our survival.
Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.
Gifted leadership occurs when heart and head--feeling and thought--meet. These are the two winds that allow a leader to soar.
Scheduling down time as part of your routine is hard but worth it, personally, even professionally.
When I say manage emotions, I only mean the really distressing, incapacitating emotions. Feeling emotions is what makes life rich. You need your passions.
CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise - and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence.
A leader tuned out of his internal world will be rudderless; one blind to the world of others will be clueless; those indifferent to the larger systems within which they operate will be blindsided.
When the darkness is seen as a necessary prelude to the creative light, one is less likely to ascribe frustration to personal inadequacy or label it as bad.
Leaders with empathy do more than sympathize with people around them: they use their knowledge to improve their companies in subtle, but important ways.
Emotions are contagious. We've all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.
Remember, empathy need not lead to sympathetically giving in to the other side’s demands—knowing how someone feels does not mean agreeing with them.
I think the smartest thing for people to do to manage very distressing emotions is to take a medication if it helps, but don't do only that. You also need to train your mind.
Once shoppers become empowered, we will facilitate industries thinking in completely new terms; for example, making products that are totally biodegradable.
Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.
Whoever has the mind to fight has broken his connection with the universe. If you try to dominate people you are already defeated. We study how to resolve conflict, not how to start it.
The amygdala in the emotional center sees and hears everything that occurs to us instantaneously and is the trigger point for the fight or flight response.
Making choices that improve things for all of us on the planet is an act of compassion, a simple act we can do any time we go shopping.
Threats to our standing in the eyes of others are remarkably potent biologically, almost as powerful as those to our very survival.