David W. Earle Quotes

A spiritual hell I lived in … hating the God of love and knowing the god I served … hated me!

There are two ways of thinking. One is living life based on fear. The other is trusting. Letting go and allowing trust to control our lives takes mental gymnastics.

People build defenses around a weakness, not around strength. Where self-esteem is strong, a defense is unnecessary.

When one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and receiver miss an opportunity for understanding.

When I looked at myself through the prism of awareness, great tears came as I connected with how this wounded child felt.

We violated each other’s boundaries with verbal missiles of anger disguised in the pretense of “just kidding.

This is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take advantage of the opportunities presented for honesty.

People pay a dear price when not dealing with the powerful emotions.

What this world needs now… more balloons and clowns

If one wants to be loved and return it full score dagger of silence closes the door.

For many years, I searched for this connection outside of myself but always to no avail. It was only when I turned inward did I find this power.

I, like you, was not depraved or defected before birth but created to be magnificent, a wonderful and freeing realization - simple but explosive.

Controlling others is the cornerstone of dysfunctional families.

They sought the pain they knew so well and called it love.

This woman’s size protected herfrom the hurts of the worldbut it also imprisoned her soul. As the merry-go-round revolved, she ate another French fry, as a silent scream frozen on her face.

Honoring your word is the fiber from which trust is built.

Her screams are heard across generations who dared not scream and died without joy, in silence and isolation.

The more judgmental a person is the sadder they are.

It was His gentle voice who calledand sent His angel pain to guide me, through the long ‘n dusty corridors, and empty hallways of my soul.

Being able to say, “No, ” is a necessary ingredient in a healthy lifestyle.

Everyone needs a place to be honest.

Children have empty erasable white boards upon which big people write indelibly imprinted messages into their tender subconscious minds.

This imbalance causes resentments within the over-responsible and dependency with the irresponsible person and this dynamic becomes the destructive life-pattern not conducive to happy families.

Change is threatening to the status quo.

Acceptance” is the most beautiful word in the English language.

Our minds have a great capacity for deception. This does not mean we are necessarily dishonest but if we are not careful, when our brains do not have answers, our minds will create them.

Only then can I fly.Only then can I be free -when Ilet go of me.

Twirling round ‘n round -faster and faster …she dreams this circular motionwill take her home, high in the heavens where hurt is onlyan earthly world.

Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.

Boundary violations are deeply experienced.

The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.

The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.

The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t this what love is? Hurt people tend to hurt other people.

It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.

If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.

Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.

If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.

Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.

Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.

Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy

Being real is being true to you.

We ardently desire to take down our masks and say to the world, “This is who I am…and I am okay.” This is simple…not easy.

When you journey inwardly exploring yourself, a sense of personal trust begins.

Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and others begin.

Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.

Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part…changing behavior.

Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppressed in the far recesses of his mind.

Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my own life and how I was living.

Chaos limits the free-flow of love and becomes a roadblock to what family members want most and sadly, it becomes the normal for the family.

When someone obtains peace and serenity, this shines a bright spotlight on others’ own unhappiness making their discomfort even more apparent.