Jessica Valenti Quotes

When are we going to realize that hating other women - no matter how much money they have or how far they've fallen - is just as bad for ourselves as it is for anyone else?

Men take what women make and claim it as their own.Men don’t love childrenThey kill them in a heartbeat to hurt a woman

Men in their hearts hate women. It doesn’t matter how much we love them. They hate us”

It's become impossible to enjoy most quality television shows because the hurt or endangered women device is so frequently used.

It seems odd that we continue to worry about the reputations of men who are accused of sexual wrong-doings.

If your husband is cheating on you, it doesn't mean that you need to get prettier -- it means he's a scumbag.

Something you hear a lot is that feminism dead. But if feminism is dead, why do people try so hard to kill it?

It's time to teach our daughters that their ability to be good people depends on their being good people, not on whether or not they're sexually active.

Wedding fever is one of the scariest diseases I have ever seen.

Once you get married, women are still implicitly expected to do the majority of the housework and take care of any future children.

People aren't comfortable thinking of women as people. Like we're not people, we're women, and that means something completely different, especially when you have power.

Child-rearing can be a tedious and thankless undertaking.

My informal writing style is a political choice, because I want feminism to be more accessible.

I think the biggest obstacle I still have to overcome is myself, and just kind of struggling every day with what to do with the work and where to go next.

The truth about parenting is that the reality of our lives needs to be enough.

If you're fighting to limit other women's rights, then you can't really call yourself a feminist.

I'm really aware of how feminism and feminist rhetoric has been appropriated by the right.

Whether people identify as feminists or not, if they're doing work that furthers a feminist cause, I think that's wonderful, like if it works for me, right, it works for the movement.

I always go with the dictionary definition of feminism, which is just social, political and economic equality for women.

I grew up definitely a feminist, but I didn't call myself a feminist until I took my first women's studies class in college.

I think people resist feminism because they're scared. I think for women, they're scared of being picked on or of being called out.

Small blogs are starting up big campaigns.

I'm glad that we have a history at all and that we can talk about feminist history. But I do think that it doesn't really pay attention to the complexity and the nuance that is feminist thought.

The biggest thinker that's influenced my feminism is definitely Bell Hooks, who's a feminist cultural critic, because of her accessibility but also just because she's a genius.

I do think that more people are feminists than they realize.

Something I say a lot when it comes to anti-feminist stereotypes is that they exist for a reason.

I think feminism is taking off. It's just not visible in the way that we would like it to be.

Instead of focusing on men and focusing on what we can do to prop them up, people seem really incredibly focused on the fact that women are doing well and maybe that's not such a good thing.

I've been thinking a lot about Lady Gaga and what she means for feminism. I think - I find her completely fascinating, and I really like what she has to say.

I think feminism has always been global. I think there's feminism everywhere throughout the world.

I certainly wouldn't be writing books if it hadn't been for the feminist blogosphere, and I think that's a really amazing thing.

I think that blogging and the Internet has completely changed feminism for ever, I think.

If you go to places like YouTube, it's a cesspool, and a lot of the comments are really horrifying and misogynist and harassing.

Obviously Feministing is kind of a women's space in a certain way, even though we have a lot of male readership and people who don't identify as women.

Life is messy, and it's okay if you are too! We all screw up, that doesn't have to define us.

I don't get much career advice at all, and I would like some.

Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because someone raped them.

According to the virginity movement, men have no self-control when it comes to anything sexual.

Stress from blogging keeps me up at night.

People are not going to give up marriage. But we can try to make it more fair. We can try to change that institution and make it more equal.

If feminism wasn't powerful, if feminism wasn't influential, people wouldn't spend so much time putting it down.

You're not too fat. You're not too loud. You're not too smart. You're not unladylike. There is nothing wrong with you.

Social media is not just another way to connect feminist and activist voices - it amplifies our messages as well.

You come to a point where you give up on holding yourself to a perfect feminist ideal — it just feels stifling.

I revisit old favorites like 'Buffy' and 'Battlestar Galactica' when I'm bored. I am obsessed with 'Scandal.' I love TV.

The only purpose of an engagement ring is to show you 'belong' to someone, and your man makes bank.

As much as I disagree with Sarah Palin, there's no denying that she was the victim of sexism.

The cultural insistence that parenting is the 'most important' job in the world is a smart way to satiate unappreciated women without doing a damn thing for them.

At the end of the day, though, the entire basis for consent laws doesn't make sense. We're not old enough to decide if we don't want a baby, but we are old enough to have one?

I think we get into very dangerous territory when we start to define who can and cannot be a feminist. It's such a slippery slope, and I have no interest in being the feminist police!