L.A. Rosenberg Quotes

I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire.

Alongside the mythos of the eternal free soul stands the Myth, the religion of the blood.

People don't make us angry, how we think makes us angry.

When it comes to giving advice, never do so unless you've first received a request in writing, signed by a lawyer.

We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.

To destroy images is something every revolution has been able to do.

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.

My opinion was that if we had a common enemy we should get together commonly.

If the English want a king, it is their business. If the Russians want communism, it is their business. If the Americans want our form of government, it is our business.

A Leader must possess credibility, imagination, enthusiasm, vision, foresight, a sense of timing, a passion for excellence and be willing to share.

Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.

Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us.

All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.

We are responsible for what we hear other people say and for how we act.

When we hear the other person's feelings and needs, we recognize our common humanity.

Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.

There had to be a hysteria and a fear sent through America in order to get increased war budgets.

When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead of getting caught up in moralistic self-judgments.

I would adopt a standpoint, irrespective of whether someone was for or against it, if I felt deeply that it was right for the movement.

When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.

Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.

I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.

My ultimate goal is to spend as many of my moments in life as I can in that world that the poet Rumi talks about, 'a place beyond rightness and wrongness.

Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.

If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

Use anger as a wake-up call to unmet needs.

And even our present acres of death will someday bloom again.

When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need.

Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words.

Internally, you experience rowing as a graphic microcosm of life - solitude, learning, work, rest, nourishment, sharing and ultimately challenge.

Form, color, composition, drawing, are auxiliaries, any one of which... can be dispensed with.

What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart.

The aim of every authentic artist is not to conform to the history of art, but to release himself from it in order to replace it with his own history.

Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.

You can't make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn't made them wish they had.

Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.

Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you.

What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.

I wouldn't expect someone who's been injured to hear my side until they felt that I had fully understood the depth of their pain.

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.

When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters.

Don't give up. You're going to get kicked in the teeth. A lot. Learn to take a hit, then pick yourself up off the floor. Resilience is the true key to success.

I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.

People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.

Kitsch is art that follows established rules in a time when all rules in art are put into question by each artist.

Don't hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing

First of all, I am not an expert on matters on different economic systems, but in my normal social intercourse with my friends we discussed matters like that.

Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

I feel that the majority of people should decide for themselves what kind of government they want.