L.A. Rosenberg Quotes

The darkness crumbles away It is the same old druid Time as ever.

Evil, unchecked, is the prelude to genocide. - Anonymous

NO is always a YES to something else.

Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs.

Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand.

Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.

NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.

The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.

Let’s shine the light of consciousness on places where we can hope to find what we are seeking.

When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.

Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.

Our goal is to create a quality of empathic connection that allows everyone's needs to be met.

The number one rule of our training is empathy before education.

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.

We need empathy to give empathy.

The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.

If people just asked: "Here are the needs of both sides, here are the resources. What can be done to meet these needs?" the conflict would be easy to resolve.

Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise or rewards.

Trish "Patsy" Walker is just one of my favorite characters and she was a big comic character in the '40s.

With any sci-fi fantasy storytelling, you must have rules be very clear, otherwise you lose people, like 'OK, they can fly; now they can't fly.'

Experimentation has been the key factor in the success of Western capitalism

The glue that kept the consumer market together the last few years was the wealth effect from the housing boom.

Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than fear, guilt, shame, or anger.

We are designed for Giving

If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met.

We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt.

As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime.

The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.

We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation.

Miracles can happen when we can keep our consciousness away from analyzing and classifying one another.

The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking.

Actors are frightened little children.

The displacement of scripted series by reality programming continues to be a severe obstacle to a working actor's ability to earn a living.

Both art and the artist lack identity and define themselves only through their encounter with each other.

Only through apprehending, by means of present-day creations, how art is created, can the creations of other periods be genuinely appreciated.

Avant-gardism is an addiction that can be appeased only by a revolution in permanence.

Whoever undertakes to create soon finds himself engaged in creating himself.

Greatness in art is always a by-product.

In reality, however, an artist is a product of art

The struggle to make an absolute statement in an individually conceived vocabulary accounts for the profound tensions inherent in the best modern work.

Loiter in the neighborhood of a problem. After a while a solution strolls by.

The artist is obliged to invent the self who will paint his pictures.

In the United States, revolts tends to be directed against specific situations, rarely against the social structure as a whole.

Abandoned by philosophy, politics, and sociology, historical determinism continues to hold out in formalist art criticism.

What better way to prove that you understand a subject than to make money out of it?

I never joined the army for patriotic reasons.

Earth has waited for them, All the time of their growth Fretting for their decay: Now she has them at last.