V. L. Crawford Quotes

Peace of Mind? Don't leave home (or go home) without it.

Sometimes knowing what to do is knowing when to stop.

Children don't know that they are lovable until they are loved. They need to see it in our eyes before they can accept it in their hearts.

The most successful form of correction is when the "other" feels informed versus chastised.

Just because we have a thought, doesn't mean it is a thought worth having.

When people feel criticized, they almost always defend the behavior you want them to change.

Living exclusively in the land of the head or the heart will always be a limiting, limited experience. The most successful among us have dual citizenship.

There's no such thing as a 'stressful' situation.

Change isn't about what you are stopping... it's about what you are starting.

To spank or not to spank isn't the question the question is whether whether we are teaching a quality we want our kids to have as adults?

Trust is simply a set of expectations about the present and the future. The key is to ensure that these are chosen and evaluated based upon awareness versus fear.

Nothing is meaningless it's how we assign meaning to the past that determines how we experience the present, and future.

One key to creating a meaningful life, is choosing what we want to feel, and for how long.

The key to being with family is to engage with those we love in a way we would teach to those we love.

Becoming critical in the face of criticism, only inspires more criticism.

The key to changing our past, present, and future is to create our piece of the PIE (our Perceptions, Interpretations, & Expectations) on purpose.

Autonomy, Purpose, & Mastery: If you are having difficulty creating the life you want, chances are one or more of these are missing.

The most powerful times in our lives can be the time between times, or life's transitions that give us the opportunity to choose.

Holding on to painful images of the past in order to avoid painful experiences in the future serves only to color the present with pain.

One barrier to being a great parent is the mistaken belief that we are raising kids.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal while blaming our misery on the person who started the fire.

Realistic optimism allows us to experience the best until we have to deal with the worst ... which often, never comes.

You can't use anxiety to deal with your anxiety it only makes you more anxious.

When 'Being Rushed' is the problem . . . Rushing is never the solution.

You can't 'cope with' change anymore than you can 'manage' stress.

As we interact with others, we can either be a person who is bringing out their best or pointing out their worst. Regardless, however, our choice is always more information about us than them.

To find the true cause of how you think and feel, find the 'sponsoring thought' that created the interpretation that created your experience of life.

One key to success is knowing the difference between knowledge and wisdom. One is information from the past while the other is the key to the future.

There are two ways to make someone important in our lives ... we can either love them or hate them.

When our worries and fears just don't make sense, it's possible we are trusting the part of the brain that doesn't make sense... it just reacts.

Meaning isn't something we discover, it is what we bring to life, either by choice or by chance.

The true measure of our belief in the validity of our values is our willingness to act upon them.

When a loving, meaningful experience is our goal, we must trust an energy that is congruent with that goal as our guide along the way. Bottom line, trust love over fear if love is what you're after.

But if your work is your art, a personal reflection of who you are, the only person who can do that better than you, is a future you.

Never make your highest purpose, or the most important thing in your life something that is outside of your control.

To influence others, we must know what is influencing them... and they must know that we get it.

Love will keep us safe when we commit to choosing the kind of qualities, characteristics, and relationships that we would recommend to someone we love.

Want to change your experience of life? Change the problem to the practice field.

When we take no responsibility for any aspect of our past, we limit our ability to respond in the present and the future.

The difference between self-confidence and conceit is as simple as love and fear. Jesus was self-confident ... Hitler was afraid.

Fear of feeling bad rarely makes one feel good.

Let's not let our fear of dementia deepen our fear of dementia.

Many people would rather be certain of their worries and fears, than risk the uncertainty of hope and optimism.

In order to become more influential with those who are resistant to our point of view, we must be willing to start with what is influencing them.

Mistakes are just 'mis-takes,' or an action that we took that missed.

You can't fight fire with fire, or fear with fear.

It's not simply what we feel, but what we feed, that determines what we do and how we live.

Trusting fear, while fearing trust and happiness often creates a less than happy life.

Nothing destroys a relationship quicker than our fears of inadequacy and loss.

When the question is either/or, the answer is almost alwaysboth/and.