Trauma Quotes
Healing doesn't just take a little time, it also takes commitment to get started and to complete the process.
In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is shaped by the actions and beliefs of the perpetrator.
As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself.
While trauma keeps us dumbfounded, the path out of it is paved with words, carefully assembled, piece by piece, until the whole story can be revealed.
Life is a lesson that must never be taken for granted.
The only way to get over the pain is to face it, embrace it, hug it and learn the lessons embedded within it.
Part of the process in healing from trauma, like recovering from addiction, is developing connection and support with others.
Often it isn’t the initiating trauma that creates seemingly insurmountable pain, but the lack of support after.
We don't heal in isolation, but in community.
I used to move gracefully. I used to know the word grace to the center of my bones. Now I seek it every day and fall short, inevitably, every day. I lost grace.
... it is to your credit that you recognize that if he was a monster then it was other monstrous things which made him so. The iron forged on the anvil cannot be blamed for the hammer...
no-one would want to go through a traumatic experience but when you’ve survived something life-shattering and risen above it, you achieve a kind of serenity.
And I didn't think even eternity would be long enough to fix me.
the tears finally got the best of him and he pressed his palms to his eyes as his shoulders started to shake. He cried silently, in so much pain that there was no sound to equal it
Feelings are feelings, no matter when they happen. Our bodies don't stop being ours just because worse things happen to other people.
Betrayal is a more subtle, twisted feeling than terror. It burns and eats, but terror stabs right through.
A silence absorbed them both – a lack of sound so potent it blackened the place with something richer than hate.
It was only high school after all, definitely one of the most bizarre periods in a person’s life. How anyone can come through that time well adjusted on any level is an absolute miracle.
I could hardly sleep and even when I did drop off, I awoke to a grim thought: I’m disgusting. I can’t play any more. I went to bed with Dudek and all his Liverpool team-mates.
When I got out of prison, I was basically no longer human, ' Miriam says.
Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated.
This was the face that Ga had shown the world, that of a boy who had swallowed the things that had happened to him, but who wouldn’t understand what they meant for a long, long time.
you are not an athlete because of what you can do, but because of who you are: a team player, someone who never quits, who strives to be his personal best, and who believes in fair play.
Writing is simply another means for truth to escape, besides crawling out the hole it’s eaten in the author’s belly.
Debriefing-style counseling after a trauma often aggravates a victim's stress-related symptoms, for example, and 4 in 10 bereaved people do better without grief therapy.
The more a child is abused, the more the child uses his abilities to anticipate, manage, prevent, dismantle, and challenge the abusing ways of his parents.
The afternoon my parents died, I was out shoplifting with Irene Klauson.
The war is against children, and all the other wars are just a shadow of the war on children.
By aggrandizing one's own abilities and achievements, the grandiose person remains out of touch with who they truly are and as such, remains prone to crossing the boundaries of others.
Perhaps this was the wisdom with which a child in her position survived: by minimizing her wounds—staying as small as possible, as nearly transparent as possible.
Resiliency is the body's internal response to a stressful situation.
You had nightmares every night for a long time and screamed in Korean words, but we didn't know what they meant. I asked someone who knew Korean, and he said it was um-ma um-ma, the word for mom.
I'm ready for the day when Mom loves me too much to keep me, and for every other person who will someday see that I'm not worth holding on to.
Because if I am living an honest life, and my eyes are open, and I'm trying my hardest to be good and kind, then anything I'm doing is fine to tell people.
society has an embarrassing history of denial
It is always a mistake to underestimate how long it takes for mankind to understand the traumas it has suffered, especially the self-inflicted ones.
It is a rare person who can cut himself off from mediate and immediate relations with others for long spaces of time without undergoing a deterioration in personality.
We look at your eyes. The eyes carry the wounds. The eyes know damage. Damaged people recognize other damaged people, and we let you in. We are kindred. - Broken Places
Traumatic experiences in early childhood may interfere with the child's ability to securely attach.
A child's temperament appears to play another significant role in the child's own perceptions and worldview.
Sometimes the people around you won't understand your journey. They don't need to, it's not for them.
The central mechanism of the avoidance mechanism of PTSD is the ego defense of denial
Whatever made me the way I am left me hollow, empty inside, unable to feel. It doesn't seem like a big deal.