An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first.

I mean that repeated offences, even when they secure forgiveness, drive out love. And from that I came to say that one may compel obedience but never love.

Education is the only billion dollar industry that tolerates abject failure.

Differences can be strength rather than a handicap.

Seraphs share with thee Knowledge; but Art, O Man, is thine alone!

I shall not die, but live; and again declare the evil deeds of the friars.

You can't eat a winner's plaque.

Life is a series of tests; but if you pass your tests, you look back upon them as good experiences.

My childhood was very colourful, and I am very good friends with both my parents. We have no secrets.

This is a subtle truth. Whatever you love, you are.

I always loved rock guitar. I just never put it together that that's what I'd end up doing.