Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.

Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part…changing behavior.

The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.

The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t this what love is? Hurt people tend to hurt other people.

It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.

If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.

Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.

If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.

Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.

Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.

Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy

It is not true that people stop pursuing dreams because they grow old, they grow old because they stop pursuing dreams.

Opinion is usually something which people have when they lack comprehensive information.

Trust in the inexhaustible character of the murmur.

Welcome anything that comes to you, but do not long for anything else.

Once again she shuddered with the evidence that time was not passing, as she had just admitted, but that it was turning in a circle.

I don't really cook much. I'm more of a baker. My favorite things to bake that everybody loves, and I can only keep in the house for about ten minutes, are 7-Up cake and Pineapple Upside-Down cake.

Ridiculous stuff happens when I travel.

Sense of family is enormously important to me. In the larger sense, we're all of us family; we're all of us soulmates.

The greatest discovery of the 20th Century is that our attitude of mind determines our quality of life, not circumstances.

We will all laugh at gilded butterflies.