Challenging behavior is just a signal, the fever, the means by which the kid is communicating that he or she is having difficulty meeting an expectation.

No kid should be getting three or four hours of homework a night. There's no breathing time, there's no family time, there are just extracurriculars and homework and then go to bed.

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

We have forgotten that those skills on the more positive side of human nature have to be taught, have to be modeled, have to be practiced.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

If we're being unilateral, then communication does not happen, the relationship does not happen.

If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.

When people are rushed, they're stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you're trying to grasp control.

The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.

Parents are much more likely to be attuned to what they don't like than they are to the expectations that the kid is having difficulty meeting.

God is a concept by which we measure our pain.

That's the difference between you and Greta. She has better things to do. She gets involved in clubs, activities. She has friends. But you? You slump around in that room of yours--

With teamwork, any little contribution you make yields greater output when it meets the contribution of others, and guess who gets the plus? Everyone in the team!

The gospel declares that no matter how dutiful or prayerful we are, we can't save ourselves. What Jesus did was sufficient.

This is your life and you have the right and responsibility to make good decisions for yourself.

You have constellationsgrowing under your skin.starlight in the blood spilledwhen they stole your feathers

Above all things, never be afraid. The enemy who forces you to retreat is himself afraid of you at that very moment.

Christianity is not a mere religion but an experimentally testable science.

Adversity has the effect of drawing out strength and qualities of a man that would have laid dormant in its absence.

Grace (talking about Sam): At the sight of him, my stomach slid down to my feet, a weird combination of relief, nerves, and anticipation all in one, a feeling that never seemed to go away.