Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married.

All the couples therapy and communication seminars in the world won't save you if you aren't prepared to close your eyes and hug the mainmast through a storm.

So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a secret to losing weight is to eat less. Be nice. Don't leave. That's all.

I want to say that at various points in your marriage, may it last forever, you will look at this person and feel only rage.

...there is so much beauty in the trying, and in the failing, and in the trying again.

The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful for grown-ups.

(Personally, I have avoided many fights by going to bed angry and waking up to realize that I'd just been tired.)

...even good marriages sometimes involve flinging a remote control at the wall.

People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards.

As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth on that line decade by decade, year by year, week by week, even hour by hour.

...that's part of what marriage means: sometimes hating this other person but staying together because you promised you would.

Life is ever changing.We are ever transforming.

Looking fifty is great - if you're sixty.

Eve left Adam to meet the Devil in private.

Why is it always the "intelligent" people who are socialists?

The work of art assumes the existence of the perfect spectator, and is indifferent to the fact that no such person exists.

Get to live; Then live, and use it; else, it is not true That thou hast gotten. Surely use alone Makes money not a contemptible stone.

What mental health needs is more sunlight, more candor, more unashamed conversation.

The hardest thing in practice is finding enough time to think about design.

If I were a chocolate I'd eat myself. Seriously, we're all interested in ourselves and what other people are saying about us to some extent.

When we transplant organs, we are enabling viruses to jump natural barriers between species.