Fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man.

Bad marriages don't cause infidelity; infidelity causes bad marriages.

The secret to having a good marriage is to understand that marriage must be total, it must be permanent, and it must be equal.

Love is not something people feel, but something people try to express no matter how they feel.

The more things we can laugh about, the more alive we become: The more things we can laugh about together, the more connected we become.

Fidelity is the single most important element in solidly enduring marriages.

Marriage, like a submarine, is only safe if you get all the way inside.

Fathering makes a man, whatever his standing in the eyes of the world, feel strong and good and important, just as he makes his child feel loved and valued.

Marriage isn't supposed to make you happy - it's supposed to make you married.

Fathering is the most masculine thing a man can do.

Parents can make us distrust ourselves. To them, we seem always to be works-in-progress.

If you believe that your needs were met because you prayed, then you make God the parent who reacts only when the baby cries. Matthew 6:25-34.

All my music is very simple in that melody is usually clearly stated.

We never stop investigating. We are never satisfied that we know enough to get by. Every question we answer leads on to another question. This has become the greatest survival trick of our species.

Without courage, all other virtues are useless.

Because a women's beauty does not belong to her alone. It is a part of the bounty she brings into the world. She has a duty to share it.

Taste is the literary conscience of the soul.

If you see me once, you cannot confuse me with another.

Black Realism or cosmopolitan black politician is a code word to say this is a black person that is not tied to a civil rights/black power traditional black politics.

The essence of practice is always the same: instead of falling prey to a chain reaction of revenge or self-hatred, we gradually learn to catch the emotional reaction and drop the story lines.

If I must die, I will encounter darkness as a bride, and hug it in mine arms.