I see consensual S&M no differently than I see consensual anything: as beautiful, and never any one thing.

The frustration of being marginalized often gets misdirected at the most visible members of one's own community, because they are more accessible than the real agents of marginalization.

Abandonment by a lover won't kill us. But it awakens the parts of us that remember when it could.

It has been my experience that the people I judge most harshly are the ones in whom I recognize some part of myself.

Anyone who makes a life of what they love is a hero to me, and it's important for those people to be visible in every kind of life, every kind of love, every kind of work.

New York at night, from its bridges, is a miracle. When I first came to the city, it took all my fantasies and set them on fire, turned them into flickering constellations of light.

You don't have to write like David Foster Wallace or James Baldwin or Maggie Nelson - indeed, you shouldn't. Those writers are doing it better than you ever could.

I can still discern people's weaknesses, but it doesn't make me want to exploit them; it makes me want to hug them.

Torch songs are confessions. They are an expression of feeling that cannot be concealed or contained or minimized. They are marked by anguish, yes, but also by yielding.

The craft work becomes a mediator between me and my secrets, between me and the listener.

Letting go of the cozy stories you've been carrying around is devastating. But there's more room for new stuff after you do it.

We are a species born from the planet. If the machines truly want to protect the Earth type planets they must learn to take care of us too.- Sun Wukong

He gives me the hairy eyeball, and asks me to help him find his pancreas.

If Sony's not going to show 'The Interview,' that's it. No more North Korean movies for me.

Strategies grow initially like weeds in a garden, they are not cultivated like tomatoes in a hothouse.

Who tells a finer tale than any of us. Silence does.

The faults and shortcomings we see in the members of our own ward or branch are of less consequence to us than one of the smallest in ourselves.

What is undeniable is that when comforts and convenience sap our energies and idealism, inactivity secretes sloth in to our minds like a poison in the blood.

That happens to me everyday. I watch my thoughts, not only on the mat, but all through the day.

The worst professional advice I've received. "If you were the last person on earth, I would never choose you to be a movie star."

Some shows, like PPG, tape in a group session, which is always more fun because you can play off each other.