Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan but to have any meaning or viability at all a life plan must include intimate relationships.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

Honest communication is a rare thing.

The reward of pain is experience.

For what is the best choice for each individual is the highest it is possible for him to achieve.

If we speak poorly about that which we do well... people will assume we perform poorly!

The whole idea is to get an edge. Sometimes it takes just a little extra something to get that edge, but you have to have it.

I'm afraid of pretty much everything, but there's something inside me that is addicted to scaring myself.

The world is a stage, the stage is a world of entertainment.

Going on means going far, going far means returning.

We felt like the Taliban saw us as little dolls to control, telling us what to do and how to dress. I thought if God wanted us to be like that He wouldn't have made us all different.

I am nothing; nothing is everything