It's remarkable how many couples can precisely describe their particular pattern of painful fighting, and claim to be helpless to change it.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

Only the best thoughts is good enough to carry you throughout today's journey.

Love is the linchpin that connects the material world with higher levels of existence.

Every word that I utter matters and this makes me speechless.

A partial truth is nothing more than an entire lie.

Manage me, I'm a mess Turn a page, I'm a book Half unread

I don't care what other critics say, I only hope to be played.

Nothing comes into being without a cause and when all the conditions are created, there is nothing that can prevent the consequence.

It is also one of the pleasures of oral biography, in that the reader, rather than editor, is jury.

I know I will go to hell, because I pardoned Richard Nixon.

New York is the greatest character actor ever. Any film that is shot in New York is elevated by the city.