No book or expert can protect us from the range of painful emotions that make us human.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

What was once thought can never be unthought.

What force is more potent than love?

Food, love, career, and mothers, the four major guilt groups.

The truth of the matter is that all we have to do is live long enough and we will suffer.

Our perspectives on situations act like a lens through which we view the world.

Love is patient and trusting; it doesn't hold a grudge when somebody hurts you, and most of all, it endures.

Everything is nothing, and nothing is everything.

If you are in the same place today as you were yesterday, you are a backslider.

A book that is shut is but a block.