Our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it rightfully falls within our jurisdiction.

If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you will end up looking for another person in order to reconnect with those lost parts.

Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.

Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance.

Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes.

It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy.

Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.

There is no neediness in desire ... there is no caretaking in desire. Caretaking is mightily loving, [but] it's a powerful anti-aphrodisiac.

When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become.

Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.

It's our imagination that's responsible for love, not the other person.

Honesty, for me, is usually the worst policy imaginable.

If silences could be pregnant, then this one went to full term.

I rocketed a commanding finger to the heavens and it rained stardust upon our young heads.

When a fully qualified Mahayana disciple relies completely upon a fully qualified Mahayana Spiritual Guide the attainment of enlightenment is easy.

We are getting into semantics again. If we use words, there is a very grave danger they will be misinterpreted.

You need to believe in your passion, no matter how stupid or insane that might make you look to the rest of the world.

When we teach ourselves and our children discipline, we are teaching them and ourselves how to suffer and also how to grow.

I was in love with Scott Bennett. That I had been in love with him my whole life, practically.

Essentially we need a new social consensus for economic reform as New Labour has achieved in Britain.

Pleasure is sweetest when 'tis paid for by another's pain.