People build defenses around a weakness, not around strength. Where self-esteem is strong, a defense is unnecessary.

Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part…changing behavior.

The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.

The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t this what love is? Hurt people tend to hurt other people.

It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.

If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.

Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.

If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.

Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.

Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.

Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy

The great aim of education is not knowledge but action.

If you make friends with yourself, you'll never be alone.

I’m getting the feeling that you two don’t like me. - Kristy

He that dare not die, dare scarce fight valiantly (475).

I do my best work if I think about what it is I have to offer.

Being happy is knowing how to be content with little

Cleverness is cheap. It is faith that He praises.

And yet, just for a moment, what almost frightening power had sounded in that cry from only a few hundred throats! Why was it that they could never shout like that about anything that mattered?

Can I tell you something you really don't want to hear? He's going to break up with you. - Stuart

Till man destroys "self" he is no true friend of God.