Self-pity is a dead-end road. You make the choice to drive down it. It's up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out.

You will learn a lot about yourself if you stretch in the direction of goodness, of bigness, of kindness, of forgiveness, of emotional bravery. Be a warrior for love.

What if I was never redeemed? What if I already was?

Don't surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn't true anymore.

Whatever happens to you belongs to you. Make it yours. Feed it to yourself even if it feels impossible to swallow. Let it nurture you, because it will.

The story of human intimacy is one of constantly allowing ourselves to see those we love most deeply in a new, more fractured light. Look hard. Risk that.

You have to say I am forgiven again and again until it becomes the story you believe about yourself.

That my complicated life could be made so simple was astounding.

Real love moves freely in both directions. Don't waste your time on anything else.

Be about ten times more magnanimous than you believe yourself capable of. Your life will be a hundred times better for it.

Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. It's the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. It's worthy of all the hullabaloo.

The esoteric finds the Absolute within the traditions, as poets find poetry within the poems.

If you aren't learning, you are regressing, because more growth comes from failure than from success.

All I want to do is make people beautiful.

I haven't read any of the autobiographies about me.

sometimes i wish i'd been an englishman; american life is so damned dumb and stupid and healthy

To have and to want more that is life.

I began to understand with a terrible sureness that we teach what we need to learn and write what we need to know.

Ive been competitive since day one. Even in little things as a child, like having a twin and a direct competitor for who makes better cookies.

This is one of the cruelties of the theatre of life; we all think of ourselves as stars and rarely recognize it when we are indeed mere supporting characters or even supernumeraries.

There is really no difference between matter, mind and Spirit. They are only different phases of experiencing the One.