The first goal is for the clinician to find the patient, and the patient to find the clinician, as both are required for a real alliance.

Having listened to people for a long time, I believe many of us should be thankful not to be shot.

Above all, the clinician must not shake what little faith the patient has in himself.

The slow compromise, or even surrender, of our fondest hopes is a regular feature of normal human life.

Of course they fought as lovers must do to find a liveable space.

Today many medications act across diagnostic groups. Alliance effects also transcend specific psychotherapy methods. Both may be affecting profound psychopathological processes.

Suffering brings the patient to us...the patient needs to feel heard and seen-that is, met, by another person.

Many patients cannot hear until they feel heard.

An argument can be made that relationship building is the treatment.

Don't confuse your mentor with your buddies. Unlike the latter, your mentor isn't contented with where you're in life right now...

we all get waves of regret sometimesbut instead of dwelling on what you can’t change, start focusing on what you can.

My mothering needed a tad more Mother Theresa and a lot less Lizzy Borden.

If you give yourself a chance to get to know your positive inner-self better, you would never have a need to be someone else.

For the first time in history, we declared war without financing it. Americans have not been asked to pay for it through taxes.

Rise early, that by habit it may become familiar, agreeable, healthy, and profitable.

Self-respect is a question of recognizing that anything worth having has a price.

I grew up on a farm - it was a lovely life; we'd make tree houses all day - and my parents worked from home.

I think shorter books are going to become more and more of the trend. So I don't think you have to write big, big, long books.

I was very nervous about going up to teach at Stanford and very nervous even about going to ARPA.