The first world we find ourselves in is a family that is not of our choosing.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

I shall enter on no encomium upon Massachussets she needs none. There she is. Behold her and judge for yourselves.

Talking about things that are understandable only weighs down the mind.

The most inspiring leaders are those who... inspire the rest of us to be our best selves and to match our skills with our passions. They give us confidence to pursue our dreams.

Happiness is a moral obligation

Without time,” the angel said, “you have only the bottomless, shapeless mire of eternity.” “FYI, philosophy bores me.” “Not philosophy. Reality. Time is what gives life significance.

Genius must be born, and never can be taught.

For email, the old postcard rule applies. Nobody else is supposed to read your postcards, but you'd be a fool if you wrote anything private on one.

There is nothing more frustrating than a good example.

Confidence, the sexiest thing I put on in the morning.

Roar, lion of the heart, and tear me open!