Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first.

The very essence of I is being killed by You.

...perhaps in actions I'm less of a man - but, oh the words - such lovely words...

Sekhmet crawled onto Ramses's lap and began to purr. 'The creature oozes like a furry slug, ' said Ramses, eyeing it without favor.

My first degree came years before my second. I had wanted to be a physicist, but I flunked calculus.

Anyone who knows a strange fact shares in its singularity.

God's goal is not to get what you want; it is to get you what you need.

You can't be fixed. You can't be saved.

Biography, like big game hunting, is one of the recognized forms of sport, and it is as unfair as only sport can be.

A friend is someone who understand your past, believes in your future, and accepts you today just the way you are.

Happiness is liberty from everything that makes us unhappy.