To recommend that women become identical to men, would be simple reversal, and would defeat the whole point of androgyny, and for that matter, feminism: in both, the whole point is choice.

Ideas move fast when their time comes.

Normal is absolutely my least favorite word.

Nostalgia is a dangerous emotion, both because it is powerless to act in the real world, and because it glides so easily into hatred and resentment against those who have taken our Eden from us.

That is the point of quotations. One can use another's words to be insulting.

I don't know why togetherness was ever held up as an ideal of marriage. Away from home for both, then together, that's much better.

The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are known only to the two players, who seek no public trophies.

The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible.

The compulsion to find a lover and husband in a single person has doomed more women to misery than any other illusion.

Most full lives are filled with empty gestures.

Thinking about profound social change, conservatives always expect disaster, while revolutionaries confidently anticipate utopia. Both are wrong.

There’s only so much you can watch someone sacrifice before you realize they’re changing who they are for you, and not in a good way.

What you practice, is what you’ll do

... a warrior could not avoid pain and grief but only the indulging in them

My life is really a history of observing forms and taking in imagery. I don't mean in a photographic way, I mean in a way of feeling them structurally.

By the time a partnership dissolves, it has dissolved.

Holiness is not a luxury for the few; it is not just for some people. It is meant for you and for me and for all of us. It is a simple duty, because if we learn to love, we learn to be holy.

Well it's the hurt I hide that fuels the fires inside me

Literature transforms and intensifies ordinary language, deviates systematically from everyday speech.

What changes your life is not learning more. What changes your life is making decisions & using your personal power & taking action.

Time and fevers burn away Individual beauty from Thoughtful children, and the grave Proves the child ephemeral