Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance.

If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you will end up looking for another person in order to reconnect with those lost parts.

Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.

Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes.

It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy.

Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.

There is no neediness in desire ... there is no caretaking in desire. Caretaking is mightily loving, [but] it's a powerful anti-aphrodisiac.

When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become.

Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.

It's our imagination that's responsible for love, not the other person.

The mom doesn't become sexy; the woman does. You have to retrieve the woman from the mother. And she may need to separate to do that: a bath, a walk. She must cordon off an erotic space.

All that is not God is death.

That was the end of his driving.. That was the end of his walking free.. That was the end of his privacy.. And that was the end of his secret.

The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things. He is the one that gets the people to do the greatest things.

The root of all fear is imagination.

The problem with winter sports is that - follow me closely here - they generally take place in winter.

If you're happy inside you don't have to convince everyone else.

I guess the very first thing is to own your true self, and that includes achieving the point of not lying to others; the first step should be not lying to yourself.

What you do with your billable time determines your current income, but what you do with your non-billable time determines your future.

This book [March], in my estimation, is a road map. It is a change agent. It is saying to people, "This is a way".

No one is contented in this world, I believe. There is always something left to desire, and the last thing longed for always seems the most necessary to happiness.