We commonly confuse closeness with sameness and view intimacy as the merging of two separate I's into one worldview.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

Seek only to preserve life -- your own and those of others. Life alone is sacred.

If you want to protect me, prayer is just as powerful a weapon as that gun you carry.

The advice of the elders to young men is very apt to be as unreal as a list of the hundred best books.

Whenever I write a part, I think there's this person somewhere in the world that this part is specifically for and all I have to do is go searching to find that particular individual.

Those who say they would write a book if only they had time will never become authors.

A woman can be over dressed but never over elegant.

If no one can do that, yeah, Donald Trump better man the lifeboats, because there's some significant chance he'll win the nomination.

Here's to opening and upward... and to yourself and up with you and up with and up with laughing.

Success is not a secret – it never has been. There are only a few really good ideas and not one of them is a secret.

Liking someone doesn't make you weak.