When anxiety disrupts functioning, it's psychiatric illness.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

Real relationships are the product of time spent, which is why so many of us have so few of them.

Adrian, I'm on a date. Why are you here? On my car?

Men are so easy to manipulate, poor things.

I have never seen either angels or goddesses, so I am not interested in painting them.

The self is made, not given

The thing I love about God is He intentionally guides people into failure.

lots of women buy just as many wigs and makeup things as I do ... They just don't wear them all at the same time.

The most malicious kind of hatred is that which is built upon a theological foundation.

Paintings. Or the collapse of time in images.

The toughest thing about managing is knowing your personnel and what it can give you under all conditions.