Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first.

Anger is so easy to get into and so hard to get out of.

The mind's the standard of the man.

I am hanging in the balance of a perfect finished plan, like every sparrow falling, like every grain of sand.

She is such a good friend that she would throw all her acquaintances into the water for the pleasure of fishing them out again.

The road of rock and roll (much like life) is littered with broken dreams and death. And it's our job to overcome these and to survive.

So what else can I tell you?" I asked. "I mean, to get you to reveal Lily to me.

The best entertainment speaks to the human condition in an honest way.

You can never truly enjoy Christmas until you can look up into the Father's face and tell him you have received his Christmas gift.

Worship does not become worship until it changes the way we live

No doubt, a scientist isn't necessarily penalized for being a complex, versatile, eccentric individual with lots of extra-scientific interests. But it certainly doesn't help him a bit.