You have to let go of who you were to allow yourself to become who you are.

Your closet needs to be a place of joy and celebration of who are you now - not who you were.

Don't let fear or insecurity stop you from trying new things. Believe in yourself. Do what you love. And most importantly, be kind to others, even if you don't like them.

You should feel beautiful and you should feel safe. What you surround yourself with should bring you peace of mind and peace of spirit.

Confidence is the best accessory. It can make or break an outfit.

Clothes allow you to see yourself in a different light. They can transform you instantly and have a very real, visceral impact. Clothes become symbolic of who we are.

Texture is something we forget - it makes outfits look very expensive. You can do a monochromatic outfit, if you're afraid of things that are more colorful and printed, and still create interest.

Rules like 'don't wear white after Labor Day' or 'shoes matching the handbag' are antiquated. Modern women should feel free to experiment.

Style offers concrete rules you can follow. You can use it as a resource rather than a barrier to feeling good about yourself.

The fashion industry [is] built on, and thrives on, our collective insecurity.

The key to personal style is understanding your individual beauty enough to know which looks will work for you and which probably won't.

The Decision...I wiped my hands on my pinaforenow sullied and stainednot crisp or pressedas it had been before...

How do you sell emptiness, vulnerability, and nonsuccess?

Circumstances are beyond human control, but our conduct is in our own power.

I measure the moment in the heartbeats I skip

When you write in the third person, you get to imagine other people's interiority.

At school, I always wanted to belong to a gang, and no one would have me. So I'd have make my own gang, but with everybody else's leftovers.

An army without culture is a dull-witted army, and a dull-witted army cannot defeat the enemy.

If death is inevitable, one should try to die well.

I've only been living in England for the last 10 years, if you don't count my student years.

If you dress up, it helps your personality to emerge - if you choose well.